Disappointments are like piranhas mistaken for whales. They scavenge in bits, instead of giant morsels. Their effects are certainly more volatile than the large scale traumas or bigger issues in life (like depression), which do not always show up, but when they do, they make all those disappointment induced emotional distresses look as tinier as they can get. It is really amazing how depression can be chronic, but joy is always acute. Sometimes, you need to value people’s emotions because ultimately you will be valued for how you valued their feelings. It might sound a little selfish, but it is certainly beyond that. Suppressing your own insecurities to appreciate the truly strong sentiments of people around you (that matter) is anything but suppression, it is anything but a sacrifice. It is rewarded with happiness.
Speaking of which, happiness is not always limited to a first person experience. Many a time, happiness is merely riding others’ ride, painting yourself in their colors. Experiencing happiness in such a manner is likely to be more gratifying because you do not set the boundaries yourself. Whenever you are the architect of your own happiness, you tend to get saturated and try to look beyond, because at some point, happiness becomes so obvious, it begins to congeal into plainness and monotony. Since you subconsciously set certain limitations, once you’re on the edge, there is no room for expansion. This is a strong sense of limitation in self-induced happiness. Derived happiness is therefore way too powerful.
People are slaves to their impulses. Talking in conjunction with the people
around, the jealousy factor, and the orthodox emotional eruptions sometimes
result in an enforced self-scrutiny. People also sympathize, and pity.
But what is pitying actually? Is it just enough motivation to do something good
for someone or just a self-inflicted pressure on you to actually think about
things, or people who wouldn’t normally make into the space inside your head?
Or maybe it is a tribute to your own insecurities. Talking about relating to
others’ emotions, desperation is sometimes more meaningful than a regular
attempt of making things happen. It is like an effort enhanced with the
admixtures of repent molded guilt. So whenever a regular attempt of making
things happen fails, desperation can quite amazingly be a help.
It is equally important to metaphorically measure someone’s deeds for you in terms of intangible incentives or motivations that made them do so. Their desire to value the upshot of your delight more than the general satisfaction they obtain from your attitude towards them is a major incentive for that matter. The feelings are therefore recursive.
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